How much sex is too much sex ? How much porn / masturbation is too much?
- milkchocolate2579
- Oct 4, 2021
- 2 min read
How much is normal?
Our culture views sex as "dirty" even "sinful". This may be the reason you feel shame about being a sexual being. It is normal to spend a lot of time exploring your sexuality through sex, masturbation and watching porn.
Masturbating every day is normal
Watching porn every day is normal
Having sex every day is normal
The question is your attitude towards sex.
Is too much sex real ?
Many call it sex addiction. Not recognised in the DSM-5 but sex addiction has real consequences on relationships & well-being.
Having a lot of sex, watching a lot of porn, masturbate a lot is not sex addiction but not being able to control it or stop it is.
Are you using it as a form of self-harm or to escape? Enjoying sex is not sex addiction but using sex as a form of escape is.
When is too much ?
You have an intense urge to masturbate all the time, skipping school and work so you can stay home and masturbate. Locking yourself in the office bathroom to masturbate, risking professional relationships, interfering with your daily life.
If you enjoy frequent masturbation but you know when to stop and are able to stop it and masturbation is not causing distress in your life, you are not addicted to it.
Same applies to sex and porn.
How much sex is too much sex?
So, back to the question. Too much is when:
sex dominates your life to the exclusion of other activities
have a constant urge for sex while feeling regret, anxiety, depression, shame
having extramarital affairs, cheating
using sex as a temporary escape
watching porn, masturbate, have sex, even when you want to stop it
Seek help when
you are harming yourself and others
you cannot control/stop it
you are lying to cover this behaviour
you do it despite serious consequences
it causes you severe distress
it interferes with daily life, productivity, work performance, relationship, and your mental health
Seek help when you think you need help. It is not weak to ask for help, it is a strength and courage to get out of difficult situations.
How to help myself?
Pretending to keep it under control is not helping yourself. Lying is a choice and you must decide to be honest about your addiction in order to help yourself.
admit there is a problem
accept yourself
know that you are not alone
reach out for support group
seek professional therapy
Also read "Am I addicted to sex?" for more.
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