100 things to do after sex (aftercare)

milkchocolate2579
Oct 11, 2021
3 min read

and what not to do after sex

Your aftercare idea for yourself after masturbation, vanilla sex, BDSM session and DDLG version.

100 things to do after sex ?

Firstly, you do not need to do 100 things after sex.

The one thing you need to do is AFTERCARE.

And here is my mega list of aftercare ideas. Hopefully one out of the 100 works for you.

Aftercare ?

Aftercare is the care-taking you do after sex to make sure all parties involved including yourself to be happy after sex.

Aftercare avoid post-sex-blues (the feeling of sadness after sex, including masturbation and sexting), relieve underlying sexual shame, creates stronger emotional bonds.

Aftercare is different for everyone. There is no right/wrong. As long as it makes you feel better, it is the right one for you.

Sex is fun. Learning your own unique aftercare routine is just as fun as sex too!

To do after sex

Cuddling / Hugging
Kissing / Make out again (why not)
Deep conversation
Drink lots of water (stay hydrated yall)
Watch funny youtube/movies together
Pee (no UTI please)
Shower together
High five (we don't judge)
Pizza is always a good idea
Smoking weed (only if it's legal in your country!)
Taking care of any injuries during sex
Help cleaning up sheets (and don't complain)
Put away things used during sex
Writing journal/diary
Talk with your bestie
Kissing yourself <3
Slow sensual sex (more sex reconnect <3)
Cooking a meal together
Bring them water and food
Stroke each others' hair
Massage!
Tell them you love them
Words of affirmation (remind them you care)
Praise their performance!
Play music you both like
Dim the lights
Clean up after sex!
Patting your pets (dog, cat, hamster, bird...)
Give them space (if they want to)
Pillow talk!
Getting cup of nice tea/coffee in bed
Warm towels to wipe body
Meditation
Make cookies and delivered to partner(s) in bed
Bath tub with bath bomb and hot water!
Review video footage together
Wear partners' clothes (their smell <3)
Weighted blanket
Give them a ride home
Check-in messages (hey thank you for today!)
Twenty minutes to cool down
Hot meals (always hungry after sex so)
Text them the next day to make sure they are ok
Discussing next sexual meet-up
Be vulnerable with each other
Express you have a good time
Remind yourself and partner you are worthwhile
Tell your partner how to take care of you too!
Ask if it hurts? (after trying new things in sex)
Play video games together
Tell each other what like and don't like about sex
Savor the sex that just had together
Apologising for anything not right during sex
Apologising for taken them for granted
Express love towards each other
Heat pack (after period sex for cramps)
Taking a nap/sleep together
Talk about the sex that just happened!
Bottles of Coke, Pepsi, cold water, Gatorade...
Reading!
Play games together
Make up / dress up time
Talk about interesting topics ( is life a simulation?)
Ask each other what would they like for aftercare!
Painting nails
Smell their hair / play with hair
Small nibble on skin
Show more love!

Aftercare (DDLG version)

69. Reassure they are your babies and you love them

70. Hold hands <3

71. Huggies with stuffies (do not left out any stuffies!)

72. Baby talk time

73. Snuggle in fuzzy blankie with daddy/mommy

74. Wrap in own blankie fort ( I am a sushi :)

75. Sippy cup with your favourite drinks (milk!)

76. Lots of nuggies! Chicken nuggets yay!

77. Colouring with daddy/mommy

78. Paci! (note: CGLRE is minor friendly but DDLG isn't)

79. Hot soup to avoid tummy upset

80. Drink plenty of water after play

81. Kissing (daddies mommies need aftercare too!)

82. Watch disney movies together (or any fav movies)

83. Forehead kiss

84. Head pats

Aftercare (BDSM version)

85. Show them how much you care for them

86. Reassure things said is not how they see them IRL

87. Reaffirm they are not the role during RP IRL

88. Thanking and showing appreciation to dom

89. Cuddling and don't let go! (make sure dom is ok too!)

90. Repeat check-ins time after time (intense scenes could impact days or even weeks!)

91. Take care of wounds and injuries from sessions

92. Remind them they are worthy

93. Writing aftercare into your BDSM contracts

94. Reestablishing dynamics exploited during play

95.Giving kisses to all bruises

96. Admire marks left from scenes

97. Look them in the eyes and admire

98. Genuine touching

100. Lots of praises!

Not to do after sex

Scroll social media right after sex
Sneaking out in the middle of the night
Leave without goodbye
Leave them alone (except they requested it)
Blame them for not orgasming
Blame them for not making you orgasm
Did not check in after sex (ghost after sex)
Fall right into sleep and leave them awake alone
Objectifying partners
Disrespect partners
Make them feel bad/responsible for being sexually incompatible (there is not bad sex!)
Neglect/dismiss their needs
Take them for granted
Do things to make partner feel bad on purpose
Skipping aftercare!